Of course women can have it all!!

     Do women have themselves to blame for work- family imbalances?

     I read this article and it triggered a lot of different responses for me. My question is: Why even place blame in the first place?

     Things end up or happen the way they do, because they just do. Feelings of guilt about not excelling at everything are really just misguided frustrations. Some people are content with not excelling at everything simply because they just don't want to.

     For those of us that try hard at everything we do, and sometimes fall short of our own bench marked goals, have many options on how to deal with it. Allow, for lack of a better word, "failures" to push you to do something different and better. Allow it to make you determined. Utter the words "Oh, hell no!" and jump back in. Placing guilt on yourself or others should never be one of those options. Take responsibility for your actions but making yourself feel guilty is destructive, distracting, and will push you farther away from your goal.

     If a woman wants it all, she should take it all. But you must know yourself. Know what you really want. If you don't know what you really want, you will never be satisfied with anything you have.

     I want it all. I have it all.

     My "all" is a great career (which I have begun), children and a family (which I have begun), a sense and love of self (which took awhile, but I have begun) and great friends and family by my side no matter what (which I have been truly blessed to always have had). To me, everything else is a bonus. You don't need to have it ALL, to have it all.

     If something just isn't working for you, then it's not for you. Everyone has a niche. Find yours :)